I had a conversation with a friend the other day about some career choices
he was facing. He was wondering how to make the right choice to guarantee
his future success. Whether to stick with the type of role he knows and has
been successful in - or to take a risk and try something new. It's bothering
him to the extent that he's not enjoying his current success - or the fact
that he is lucky enough to have choices.
This conversation coincided with the sad news about David Bowie's death. A
man and artist who tried it all, constantly took risks both professionally
and personally, deliberately stepped away from some of his most successful
creations and constantly experimented with who he was and what he did. Some
experiments were more successful than others - at least from an outsiders
perspective - but I imagine he probably lived by his own set of rules - so
who is to judge?
I always resist making new year's resolutions, but I don't mind a bit of
gentle new year reflection, so both of these things have made me wonder
* Do I stop, enjoy and live in the moment often enough?
* Which of my rules do I need to rethink?
* What would happen if I released my inner "Ziggy"?
I know the answer to the first two questions - but the third is going to
take a bit more thought..........
This time last year I took a leaf out of Santa’s book and made a list. It wasn’t a list of big audacious goals or hopes and dreams for the future, it was a list of all the little things. Small simple pleasures which I keep meaning to do but never quite get round to; dinner in a particular restaurant, tickets to a sporting event, swimming at a local beach. I stuck it up on the wall with every good intention of ticking off most of it, and guess what, tick it off I did!
On the occasional blissfully agenda-less weekend I’d glance over my list and go and do something. I’ve had the pleasure of the wonderful West Somerset Railway, seen a cricket match at Somerset cricket ground, spent a fabulous Christmas evening at Dunster by Candlelight, delighted in Marwood Hill gardens and walked some sections of the South West Coast Path amongst many other things.
Curiously, the more I ticked off the more I added, filled with confidence that things on the list will happen I’ve created the magic porridge pot of the list world!
We’re often encouraged to focus on big goals and dreams and forget the small stuff, I beg to differ!
Eros on Piccadilly has been cleverly turned into a snow dome, Mr Jones up the road, in a stunning feat of engineering, has decided to project a smiling face of Santa onto the side of his house (why not if that’s what floats your boat) and we’ve been looking for the end of the sellotape since July!
As it’s my last blog before Christmas I thought I’d take a look through the last 12 months of the Tinder-blog. The snippets which we’ve shared made me smile; Jason, Lyn and I swam 10k down the River Dart, Julie used every trick in the (Leadership) book to get her family to align on the house renovation project they’re undertaking and Helen had a frustrating first hand experience of managing self when an injury kept her out of the water for a few weeks.
So my counsel to you is to take some time to look back and smile. Whatever 2013 has thrown at you find the good in it - it’s time which you’ll never get to experience again. Find some memories which make you laugh, cry and anything in between.....and then decide to make 2014 even better!
So people say that the universe has a way of sending you messages. As I was unexpectedly laying on the patio looking at the sky, I wondered what the message was that I was being given..........and then I realised. I’d been meaning to jet wash the patio for a few weeks now, especially given how slippery it had become, and despite a few near misses, I’d been putting it off. So ironically, I was on the way to the shed to get the jet washer when I finally slipped and enjoyed my moment of reflection.........
So it made me think about ‘those things’ that we all have to do – that we know we should do – but keep putting off. So what’s the key to dealing with stuff that you keep putting off? I think it goes like this:
- Trust your instincts. If you’ve decided something needs doing, then back yourself and get it done. Don’t allow yourself to make excuses.
- Make sure you WANT to do it vs think you should / need / ought to. Your motivation is seriously impacted if you don’t want to do (Rule #1 of coaching). So remind yourself why this is a good thing to do and what the positive benefits are to you and others.
- Set a date. Any date. Then stick to it. An item on the ‘to do’ list without a deadline is just a wish. Give yourself a day, a week, 2 weeks, whatever, but when that time comes deal with it. Holding yourself accountable is the most powerful way to ensure you do something you have committed to.
- Be kind to yourself and reward yourself afterwards. You deserve it.
So anyway, the patio is nice and clean and slip free. I was also inspired to dash (gingerly) into the office and deal with a couple of other work related issues that I had been putting off. I’m also full of reward-cake. So happy days!